For hopeful adoptive parents, waiting even one week for a child can seem like an eternity. It’s easy to get impatient as the weeks turn into months, but don’t give up when you’re waiting to adopt a baby.
Please, don’t give up.
It’s Not as Long as It Seems
Time is relative. Just like a child waiting for his birthday party, anticipation makes the minutes drag like hours. However, it’s important to keep in mind that through the adoption process, most families are matched with a child within 12 months. This can be much sooner in certain situations, perhaps because of good timing or because you’re willing to adopt a child with special needs.
Those months can seem long when you’re waiting to meet your baby, but as you’ve surely experienced, overall, time goes very quickly. You might wait 12 months, but then the child will be a part of your family forever. When that happens, the following months and years will fly. It makes those first 12 months seem like nothing.
Your Life is About to Change
In a good way! But still, it will change when you bring your baby home. The time you spend waiting to adopt a baby is time you should also spend enjoying your life as it is now, because it will never be quite like this again. If you’re adopting with a partner, enjoy your time together as a couple. Work together to prepare your home for its tiny new resident. If you’re a single parent, spend time with friends or immerse yourself in your favorite hobbies. Life goes fast enough; let’s not rush ourselves through a single moment.
Today Could Be the Day
You never know when you’ll get notified of a match. As heart-wrenching as it can be to wait, it would be heartbreaking to think you were just a day or two away from being matched with your son or daughter when you decided to give up. Your match could be just around the corner!
You Want to Be a Parent
Your desire to adopt a child led you this far. It made you research to find the right adoption agency. It inspired you to put together a thoughtful, complete adoptive family profile. You devoted time and money to the effort; you may have also rearranged parts of your life or had to deal with friends or family members who didn’t understand your decision at first.
Your desire to adopt a child was powerful. If you feel like quitting, remember all the reasons that brought you here in the first place.
You’re going to be a wonderful parent.
A Birth Mother is Looking for You
Somewhere out there, a woman is placing a baby for adoption. She’s nervous, because she wants to find the ideal adoptive family who will give that child an incredible life of love and opportunity. She has a list of qualities that are important to her. For one special mother, you check all the boxes, you are that ideal family.
She needs to find you. If you give up now, she’ll never find you and neither will that child.
Your Child is Waiting for You
Somewhere out there, a child is waiting. Not just for any family, but for your family. This child is perfectly suited to you, and you are perfectly suited to him or her. He or she hasn’t given up on you. Please don’t give up on that little baby.
If you’re feeling discouraged during the adoption process, don’t give up. Instead, feel free to reach out to us. We know how challenging it can be to wait for the news that you’ve been matched with a baby, and we’re happy to talk to you about it. Remember why you started this process in the first place: you’re on the journey to completing your family.
If you’re just beginning to think about either placing a child for adoption or about adopting a child, we’re here to support you and guide you through the process. Get started today!