4 Adoption Misconceptions About Colorado Birth Fathers
By Alex Reza
Perhaps you are aware of the misconceptions about birth mothers in the adoption process, but did you know there are also misconceptions about birth fathers? For example, some may assume that the birth father is not as important as the birth mother. That he doesn’t care or want to stay in contact with his child. While these assumptions can be true, it is not always the case. Understanding the birth father’s role in the adoption plan can help you navigate the complex legal issues about adoption. Adoption Choices of Colorado is a licensed, private, non-profit adoption agency; we are here to inform you and clear up the misconceptions surrounding the role of birth fathers.
1. Compared to the birth mother, the birth father is not as important.
The idea that the birth father is not as important as you are is false. Although you have more authority over the decisions regarding the adoption plan, the birth father is still significant and has a role to play. Generally, a recognized biological father has more rights than the “putative father,” where paternity has not yet been legally established. In essence, the biological father gets the same rights as you. Colorado laws are designed to protect your rights and the birth father’s rights.
Even though unmarried men in Colorado do not have the same rights as you have, there are actions they can take to establish their rights. Colorado adoption requires consent from both birth parents. Placing your baby for adoption without the birth father’s consent will mean that you are going to have to go through the Colorado legal system.
Our private adoption agency in Colorado is here to answer the legal questions you may have pertaining to either your adoption rights or the birth father’s adoption rights.
2. Birth fathers are not involved in the adoption process.
Although there are uninvolved birth fathers, there are still a decent number of birth fathers who are not just involved but committed to the adoption process. The biological father of your child may have a great desire to participate in the adoption. Though he may be unaware of what role he should play. Adoption Choices of Colorado can help him understand that his participation is very important. A great way for the birth father to be more involved is by working with you to create an adoption plan.
If the birth father helps you create this plan, then not only can he help you select the adoptive family, but the process can be easier and run more smoothly. In addition, the birth father can be a great partner in this process, offering support and ensuring that both you and the baby are happy and healthy.
3. Birth fathers do not stay in contact with their child.
Another common misconception is that birth fathers in Colorado do not maintain a relationship with their child. However, this is only true if you both choose a closed adoption. If you pursue an open adoption, you and the birth father can be involved in the child’s life after the adoption; for example, you and he may decide to visit with your son or daughter from time to time. In addition, if you complete a semi-open adoption, you and the birth father can receive photos and letters from the adoptive family.
4. Birth fathers do not need the same support as adoptive mothers.
Deciding on adoption is an emotional process, not only for you but for the birth father as well. It is a common misconception that birth fathers do not need therapy or emotional support. The idea that therapy and support groups are only for you and the adoptive parents is false. The biological father may have difficulty going through the adoption process. After you place a baby up for adoption, you may feel emotions such as grief, but know that the birth father may also have these same feelings.
Some birth fathers feel it is a sign of weakness to seek emotional support. However, in many cases, biological fathers that seek emotional support feel better about the adoption of their child. Adoption Choices of Colorado can provide therapy and other services to you and the birth father to help you get past these feelings and help you both feel the joy of knowing that your child is safe and happy.
The truth about birth fathers in Colorado
The misconceptions surrounding birth fathers do not accurately represent their role in the process, and it is important that you understand the truth instead of relying on false ideas. Additionally, it is important for you and the birth father to understand your rights and to have an adoption plan.
This will ensure that the adoption process is done according to Colorado law. If you are a woman looking to navigate an adoption with (or without) your birth father’s involvement, then Private adoption Colorado is here to help you. Please click on this clink, and an adoption professional will help answer your questions and concerns: CO Adoption.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.